Confessions Time: Meet Tom Ernsting – Exclusive Interview

Instagram Model, proud Father, seeker of adventure and full life this is Confessions Time: Meet Tom Ernsting – Exclusive for Fashionably Male.

From former Hotel Sales Executive based in New York City to be a full time model “of certain age” in South Florida, let’s meet Tom.

We’re about to dive into motivational figures from the internet, that’s why we choose Tom or he chose us… we’re gonna read personal questions, provocative thoughts, and you’ll enjoy the stunning pictures of Tom during his modeling career.

By Ron Reagan

Tom behind those hazel eyes and salt and pepper hair, he’s 6’2 in great shape for considering a “certain age” model.

By Stevan Reyes

Fashionably Male: Hi Tom. Tell us about a little about your career. Your beginnings and why you consider to move from NYC to south Florida
Tom Ernsting: I was planing for an early retirement. Both my parents died young and I inherited my parents retirement home in Naples…after leaving  my job three years ago as a global sales director in the corporate office at Mandarin Oriental Hotel Group in NYC … I was able to grow a beard. (It was against company policy.) The new “look” received a lot of attention and ultimately pushed me towards my first modeling agency: MP MEGA Miami…and have expanded from there.

By Stevan Reyes

FM: Who have been some of the biggest influences on your modeling career?
TE: Mr. Eric Rutherford for sure. He does everything which such class and grace and always looks great and happy doing it.  Also, two key photographers: Ron Reagan and Scott Teitler (took some game-changing pictures of me.)  I have since had the opportunity to work with a lot of great photographers and stylists and make-up people who have encouraged and helped me a long.

Gruen Holtz

FM: What have been a few of your favorite moments in your modeling career?
TE: For sure signing with my first agency…it was so hard to believe that I actually had a shot at this. Then, when I signed my second agency…that showed it was more than just a fluke. Another favorite moment as being asked BACK to continue modeling for Ashely Furniture (my first, second and third national commercials). And being picked for Orange Theory–the “silver” guy amongst all the young beautiful women at the shoot.

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by Gruen Holtz

FM: Having 125K followers (and counting) on Instagram means something, what do you consider that people likes and adore you so much?
TE: I think I connect with so many different demographics.   Inspirational and motivational.  Fitness is key to the attention as well and I promote #keepworkingout to all age and genders. I also get a sense that my IG feed provides and honest look at my life….the ugly and pretty. The good times and bad. And that over 50 can be the PRIME of your life. 

I also have gained a lot of followers through “cat fishing”. My identity has been used by 100s and 100s of catfishers on every social media site imaginable around the world. (match.com; millionairematch.com;

By Scott Teitler

Grinder; Tinder; Twitter, IG, Facebook,  and many any others.  I get 5-6 messages a day from people who are being scammed by my identity. Through reverse identity search these men and women (mostly women) find the REAL Tom Ernsting and end up being very supportive followers. 

FM: You’re opening a gay man, you have your partner, inclusive you have kid(s) when did you come out? And when did you decide to have children? Or wasn’t a plan? 
TE: I was married for two years and was blessed with a son…who is the best thing about me. I came out to him when he was 13 years old…I had never been so scared in my life.  He was the most important thing in my life and losing his love would have been devastating. But he was very mature about it and we are very close and it has NEVER been an issue or embarrassment for him. (Tho  some of my pictures on IG may be LOL.) 

FM: Still today, A lot of people considers a taboo being gay and having kids–ignorance is not a bless– and many comments can be stupid and people can be crazy and annoying, do you suffer of some bully on your life or social media?
TE: I have been fortunate to not have suffered as others have with bullying or social media harassment.  It’s mostly been very supportive.

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FM: How you keep a firm body, tells us something to keep motivate to go to gym and be more active this days.
TE: I work out every day. What most people do not know is that I had a series of shoulder operations that set me back emotionally and physically for 5 years. My body atrophied and I lost a lot of weight.Only in the past 4 years has my body been strong enough to be at a place where I feel confident and good about my body.   Though I do PT exersises  EVERY DAY still.

By Greg Vaughan

FM: You have a Only Fans profile, what part or parts of your body do you receive the most compliments on? 
TE: HA HA HA. Believe it or not…be it with fully clothed our not…my smile gets the most feedback. 

By Greg Vaughan

FM: All your shoots in underwear and in bed are praised and adored by so many people, I’m curious if you have a favorite brand and style of underwear? 
TE: I really do not……I have been lucky enough to have my supporters send me underwear and swim suits and it’s been a great way to provide content on my IG feed and share strong brands 

FM: We’re not political at all. But right now America is living a very delicate situation, what do you think of your country, and how do you keep yourself sane with so much bullish*t out there? Are you doing some meditation, yoga or sports …?
TE: Ignorance is bliss…I end up traveling SO MUCH that I do not have time too read or listen to the latest outlandishness….but when I come across something it blows my mind that we are in the horrible position on a world stage. I am counting the days to the next election.

FM: Do you think exists ageism into the male models career? Tell us your experience…
TE: I went into modeling at age 56…knowing what I was and where I fit in and what market I fill.

I think if I grew up in the business it would have a different point of view…but to me my “late 50s silver” style seems to be strong.

By Gabriel Gastelum

FM: What would you say to a 23 year old Tom Ernsting?
TE: I would tell 23 year old Tom to feel confident in your decisions…but kind to people…listen, and that you have a great life ahead. 

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FM: Do you have a favorite food or guilty pleasure when it comes to eating?
TE: I do….I love pizza….lasagna…..chocolate croissants…….but I do pay attention…anything in excess is not good.

FM: When you’re at the gym do you have a favorite and least favorite body part to work out?
TE: I work on my lower body a lot…but  I basically do one body part a day to try to keep some balance.  I am very proud of the way my body has reacted to fitness dedication and if gives me a confidence that I had never had before. And it has helped my modeling a great deal.

By Scott Teitler

FM: We just started a New Year and a lot of people –myself included– are struggling with resolutions. How do you keep yourself motivated and any words for people that can easily can quit the gym.
TE: #keepworkingout. If you keep at it you WILL see results. Feeling good about how you look is so important in someone’s overall happiness and well being.

By Ron Reagan

FM: You’re a freelance event manager in Florida, what can of events you considering to do a job on your own?
TE: The freelance event management takes me all over the world to support the management of their events–from sales meetings to incentives to product launches. 

FM: How can we reach you Tom, are you only on Instagram?
TE: @tomdeanernsting is best.

By Alkan Emin

FM: Thanks so much Tom its been a pleasure, any last words for all the people who admires you and loves you?
I had SUCH an awful time turning 50…feeling like “my life was over”…but It truly has never been better and I would encourage EVERYONE to look forward to getting older…exploring new things, bringing all the  wisdom to your life to make decisions that will lead to a better life for you and others. 

 You can follow Tom Ernsting at @tomdeanernsting.

  1. Thomas J Bright

    Great inspiration for men like me, who just turning 50 feel like life might end, BUT I am not one of them. not devastated at all for this age!!! I feel 30. He seems like a nice guy, but I don’t see the appeal(forgive my brutal honesty). P.S. there are many typos in this article..and SORRY I am NOT trying to be negative!!!!

  2. Anonymous

    Great job publishing a man who supports his friends who abuse young gay men. I have proof he supports abusers… disgusting…

  3. Met a scammer on twitter that turned out to be using Tom’s pictures….sad…..

    fell in love with his eyes and smile

    • fashionablymale

      Yeah, I know. People even used his pics at Grindr.

    • Shirley

      Same thing happened to me on Facebook dating, such a breathe taking good looking man…I was taken by that smile and greying mustache and beard and a body that just won’t quit. I was catfished on the Facebook dating site…..the scammer asked for money or he was going to post pictures I sent during our conversations on Google hangouts….I did not give in….he also hacked my Facebook page….love your work Tom…

  4. I’m a big fan of Tom until he messaged me saying I comment to much on his pics??? What the hell I liked them so I told him he wasn’t treating me right as a fan and he wrote just stop comments I told him he was acting like an ass so he blocked me!!!!??? A Fan kjakabebe

  5. doing porn as an older man is cool

  6. Anonymous

    I actually started a chat with this guy on one of the sites that went on for close to a year. It began to get strange when multiple times we were within shouting distance from one but he was never able to meet me.I believed he was fake, and using someone else’s pics to get somewhere. Multiple attempts by me to meet, failed. He even proactively tried to seek me out, but i was often traveling. I gave and told him so, even told him why. He got a bit defensive and I let it go. Then, out of the blue, he messaged me and was going to be in my neighborhood and would i like to meet. Uh huh, sure I said, still thinking this guy’s illegitimate. The day to meet quickly approached.. and i imagined car trouble, or stomach issues anything to prevent the meeting from happening.. The doorbell rang one minute after the time he said he’d arrive. Went to open the door and…

  7. Donna Rhodes

    I am presently being scammed by a guy using Tom’s pictures. I have not let him know that I know yet.

    • fashionablymale

      People constantly use his pictures. Be careful.

  8. Anonymous

    I just realized my earlier post from March 17th about meeting someone claiming to be Tom E cut short…
    Just when I thought I was being scammed, the doorbell rang, and there he stood, the real Tom Ernsting. He actually WAS in the area and wanted to meet, making amends for the previous failed attempts. He hung out only for a short time but during that time, I found him to be warm and engaging, personable and funny, and very much at ease discussing everything from how he spends his Sunday Mornings, to his extensive travels for work, and the hijacking of photos and identity theft (it happens quite often) that casts a dark cloud over him at times. I thoroughly enjoyed meeting him, and wish him all the best

  9. June Stokholm

    Jeg er glad for at han nævner de 2 ægte profiler på Instagram. Der ligger 4-5 profiler, man bliver i tvivl. Især på den profil som bliver kaldt privat.
    Held og lykke til Tom ♥️

  10. Been scammed by someone using his pics, we even have a video call. Everything started to getting weird when the ask for money. Thanks to this fake Tom ( Evan Leguizamo) I start doing exercises (got something good at least) now I’m following in IG and what a magnificent human he is, My idol. God bless him.

    • fashionablymale

      Oh I’m sorry for that. But believe the real Tom is a real man. Be safe out there. X

  11. marylin pruvot

    Bonjour,,pareil pour moi ,,cela fait 1 mois que je parle avec un homme via WhatsApp et commençant à avoir des doutes j’ai fais des recherches par rapport aux photos qu’il m’envoyé et je suis tombé sur toutes les photos sur ce lien!! je ne lui ai pas encore dit que j’avais découvert son arnaque!!

    • fashionablymale

      Je suis desolé. Mais le mannequin a été une victime qui a volé ses photos pour les utiliser sur différentes plateformes. le vrai modèle n’est pas responsable des actes que d’autres escrocs ont commis.

  12. Anonymous

    Look lkke a very interesting gentleman.

  13. Jose R SantiagoCordero

    I have been in contact for weeks with suppose Tom Ernsting known as Love Tom on POF. AND
    Have been fool. He claims his mother is Waleska Mathew and lives in 25-33A Ocean Crest Blvd. Far Rockaway, Queens, New York 11691 and his phone number is # 1-347-316-8817. This person has no respect for human being.

    • fashionablymale

      He has been multiple times stealing his identity, pictures are everywhere. He is not responsible of any acts this stealers are doing. I’m sorry.

  14. I am talking to someone claiming to be Tom. I am trying to find out if the email address is legitimate. tomernsting049@gmail.com

    • fashionablymale

      Must be a spam. He only owns an official account on Instagram.

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