Lasting longer in bed isn’t a science. There are some very simple, very specific things you can do to improve your performance. The first and most important one is overcoming performance anxiety. Worrying about your ability to last long enough in bed can easily unlock a whole host of other dysfunctions, including premature ejaculation and ED.
Once you get in the right state of mind, you can do a couple of additional things to enhance your stamina and perform amazingly, until your partner is fully satisfied.
Practice Some Edging
Edging isn’t a myth. It’s an actual sexual technique that can get you lasting much longer in bed.
You can practice edging on your own while masturbating. When you master the technique, you can start applying it to partnered sex.
The concept of edging is fairly simple.
When masturbating, you bring yourself to the edge of an orgasm (hence the name). This is the moment you discontinue the stimulation instead of ejaculating. Give yourself a bit of time to calm down and start all over again.
You can bring yourself to the edge a few times before eventually orgasming. Not only will this technique give you good control over your erections and arousal, it can also contribute to much more powerful orgasms than you’ve ever had before.
With a partner, you can do edging in a few specific ways. Changing the sex position is a good idea (from deep penetration to more shallow one). You can also switch between penetration and foreplay when you feel like you’re getting too aroused. Anything that decreases penile stimulation is a good way to control your excitement and last longer.
Practice with Some Toys
For many men, extreme arousal is the main reason why they don’t last long enough. You could be James Bond and you’ll still experience that issue if you haven’t had sex long enough.
Hence, you may want to try controlling that excitement on your own.
If you haven’t had sex with a partner for some time, for example, you can have a quick session with a favorite toy before meeting that special someone. Using a realistic vagina toy is such a simple way to release some steam and come into the encounter prepared.
You know that the longer you go without sex, the faster you’ll come during a partnered encounter. Don’t let the sexual excitement and anticipation build up for too long, especially if you want to impress that special someone. Not only do toys come to the rescue in such instances, they can help your solo endurance training sessions, as well.
Good sexual control is heavily tied to your breathing.
You know that taking a deep breath helps you calm down when you’re feeling anxious. You can do something similar during sex to avoid coming too soon.
Start by paying attention to your breathing during sex. You probably start taking more, shallower breaths as you become aroused and get closer to an orgasm. Now, make a conscious effort to slow your breathing down and keep it rhythmical. Inhale, count to five and exhale. This way, you’ll focus on a relaxing pattern that will help you calm down and remain in charge of your arousal.
Breathing techniques for better sexual stamina take some time to master. Don’t anticipate immediate results. Keeping a conscious focus on your breathing, however, is eventually going to help your performance.
There’s a common misconception out there that kegel exercises are only good for women. Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, however, can have sensible effects on male sexuality, as well.
The pelvic floor muscles are the ones that get engaged during erections and during ejaculation. Having some conscious control over them will potentially help you last longer (and experience more powerful orgasms).
Luckily, kegel exercises are very easy to do and you can practice them everywhere.
The pelvic floor muscles are the ones that you squeeze while peeing to stop the flow of urine.
Try to contract these muscles consciously. You can do that at home, in the office or even while commuting. Squeeze, hold the contraction and count to 10. Release. Do a series of five squeezes at a time. As you become more accustomed to the routine, you can increase the amount of time the contraction’s being held and you can also increase the number of repetitions.
Just like breathing techniques, kegel exercises require some time to work. Be patient and keep on doing your workout. The change will be gradual and subtle at first but eventually, you’ll find yourself much more in charge over your ejaculatory function.
Try a Cock Ring
Cock rings are simple accessories that work in a very basic way. This is what makes them brilliant for use during sex or masturbation.
The premise here is very, very simple.
The cock ring goes around the base of the erect penis. It’s elastic and slightly restrictive, keeping blood inside the penile tissue. If the blood cannot retract, the erection will be maintained for a longer period of time.
Cock rings can be employed during solo-play first. use this opportunity to get used to them. Eventually, you can introduce the cock ring to partnered sex. Some of these toys are also capable of vibrating, which means added pleasure for both parties involved.
Be Careful about Numbing Creams!
Numbing creams are often advertised as the best choice for guys who want to last longer in bed.
While such products can help, you need to be careful with them.
Numbing creams contain a local anesthetic, which means they desensitize the spot that they’re being applied to. Hence, putting too much cream on your penis will take all the fun out of sex. If you overdo it, chances are that you’re not going to feel anything. Also, numbing creams should always be used with a condom. Otherwise, you risk getting your partner numb, as well.
These products re a good choice for guys dealing with extreme premature ejaculation problems. They will enable intercourse and help men work around the issue.
Everyone else, however, should attempt to increase stamina in more natural ways. A numbing cream is a short-lived solution that doesn’t do anything for the actual sexual experience. Other techniques may take longer to deliver results but the improvement will be worth pursuing and experiencing in the end.